October 13, 2008

preggers DRAMA

BEST. WEEKEND. EVER.

Through a diner party! Cooked a bumload of yummies for some of our CCFs and it was a total blast! Literally couldn't of been awesomer! Someone emailed me the Rio recipe which (of course) I made w/o even rilly trying and not to brag but everyone said mine was better which was totally true! BAAAA! Anyways, we took like a gimungous number of pics of ourselves being hardcore and playing Rock Band and everything was ridiculously awesome untill...

....


...I started asking this other preggo chica there if she was nervy about labor. Not to be rude but she was seriously HUGE so I figured she was due like next week, only suprise, we're the same amount of weeks.


Um, awkward. Not to mention SAD.


We're way close of friends but things got a little weird when I said next time I'd make us sushi (which I do way well, but I didn't say that) and she said "Um, I don't know if you know this but your not supposed to eat sushi while you're preggo." Thanks, downer. So I said "Um, I don't know if you know this but your not supposed to be so huge." I smiled after so she knew not to take it personal, but she still bawled her head off and I about died.

I meant it nice, you guys!! Didn't mean it RUDE. She's super darling (at least, she use to be) and we're way close so I was suprised she got so ticked. But, it worked out good bc I was able to use my patient response to her lame preggo hormone overreaction as an example of forgiveness, which "just so happened" was the YW lesson! SO greatful for the empathy I was able to take away from that experience. I mean, can't rilly blame her for crying. Guess it isn't very fair for her since she's double my bigness and I'm double her cuteness.

60 comments:

kris said...

Ew.

Jess said...

I'm glad you could take the high road and forgive her. Some preggo girls are just too touchy! Hang in there, she will learn from your example!

clan of the cave hair said...

That Rio recipe is Sick, and I don't mean Psik, I mean, gross. LOL

cheri said...

I'm sure you meant that the nicest way ever.

ramsam said...

TAMN I am so super glad you could forgive her for over-reacting. How nice to know you have 'still got it' even though you are like, totally burdened with TWICE the babies she is.

Keep the faith, girlfriend!

Kim said...

It's fine. And who does she think she is telling you what to eat! Like she's an expert on growing the hottest fetus ever. Your the one with super-spiritual embryos anyway. I bet she doesn't even play Mozart to her seriously not blessed fetus.

Kristina P. said...

TAMN, I think if you said "No offense" first, she totally wouldn't have started crying.

Seriously, no one can ever get upset if you say "No offense" first.

"No offense, but you're not supposed to be so big, and you're not righteous enough to have twins."

See? It's pretty much a compliment.

brossettelewis said...

She only has one? I so wouldn't worry! You have twins and can control your pregger hormones, she needed to hear it and it's better coming from a friend, plus she has like 1/2 a pregnancy to get back in shape. Poor thing!

Sadie, Corey and Cailyn said...

So glad for real lessons learned! We can all learn from this! Oh yeah, I totally ate sushi my whole 9months and my little nugget is SO smart!!!

The Crash Test Dummy said...

I agree with Kristina. You gotta learn how to deliver an insult. But at least you learned empathy. You are so insightful about the plan.

Angela said...

*sigh* i miss cafe rio. like crazy bad. why's it gotta only be in Utah and Arizona? It's time to bring it to the Ohio. After all, it WAS Zion first... I'm just sayin.

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Jeppson Clan said...

Cracking up!
"Um, I don't know if you know this but your not supposed to be so huge." Nice job TAMN.

seriously sooo tired said...

I really prefer "don't take this the wrong way." Then you are very clear up-front that it's their fault if they get upset. They are the ones who purposefully misinterpreted what you said.

Some people are just too sensitive.

Piko and Kanoe sitting in a tree. . . said...

She wasn't aware that sushi doesn't always have raw fish in it! Poor girl!
It's the the prego hormones!

Mhana said...

I like to think of you as Bella after she turns into a vampire. I mean, everyone was all thinking you'd be a crazy hormonal drama fest and completly out of control since you were double preggo and everything, but you're so totally in control of yourself, its like you have a spiritual gift for it or something. I am a little hurt your aren't posting weekly profile pics of your belly though.

Whitney R said...

And not to mention you have DOUBLE the bundles of joy!

It's okay, TAMN. She was just crying because you weren't bigger than her so she couldn't make fun of you. That's all.

She told me last night.

rhonda said...

I totally know what you are going through right now. I mean, hasn’t she read that article by that one Apostle about how you’re supposed to chose to not to be offended. She sooo obviously doesn’t read the Ensign which should really make you re- consider inviting her to anymore your darling dinner party’s. You don’t need any of those spirit buzz killers hanging around you. It’s her loss.

Sheenalynne said...

Yea I think your awesome for keeping your composure. I hate when your just looking out for a BFF like that and they totally cry like that. Cause most of my friends are like be totally honest if I look fat or my hair looks bad or the famous "you would tell me if i looked like that right?" so when they ask and I say yes, then they get all pissed and start feeling bad. Well geez I'm just being honest. I HATE WHEN PEOPLE CONFUSE BEING HONEST WITH BEING RUDE.

Chelsea said...

I can't believe how she overreacted! I mean, if your FRIENDS can't tell you you're fat, who can??

GladysIcanbee said...

I agree, always start with "don't take this the wrong way..." after all, you're just trying to help. Sounds like her little bean will be like 6 months old and people will be asking her when she's due...and she'll have to find comfort by eating the entire pork salad. I heart how you are the prfect zample of my favorite scripture, "I didn't always say life would be fair."

Katie said...

Yay for Molly's Clothing!!!

ktmay said...

kristina is so smart- "no offense" works....but if you ever forget to say that FIRST, don't worry- just add "sweetheart" or "honey" at the END and that cancels out whatever you said. like "you smell like rotten garbage, sweetheart." see , that sounds nice, right? like you're just trying to help out! of course you need to smile sweetly or better yet, WINK afterwards. that smoothes over any thoughtless junk that may accidentally fly out your mouth.

Jen R. said...

What does CCF's stand for...maybe I'm a little slow but I just can't figure it out! And good job for being a true friend and telling her how it is. That's so much better than talking behind her back.

~*~*~Britni~*~*~ said...

Bless her little heart, she's just jealous of your perfect, rightous feti. Plus, your sushi is way ah-MAZ-ing and you should eat all the sushi you want while your preggers. The spirit will protect you from samonella.

Shannon said...

TAMN,

No offense, but you TOTALLY could of got the EXACT SAME message across without SAYING ANY WORDS at ALL! Here's how it goes: When your "friend" calls you out on that sushi thing in front of everybody (which to TOTALLY against bff girl code, right?) you should just stop right there, put your hands on your hips, look VERY DIRECTLY at her humongous pudge with your eyebrows raised really high and your chin tucked in and your head tilted to the side. Then you look at her face with your best pity pout, and then tilt your head to the other side. Then you end with a frowny smile.

Trust me, she'll get it and you don't even have to be "rude".

CCF = closest couple friends

Teryn said...

OK... I'm dying laughing right now!

Kristen said...

I know, I can't believe those people that get BIG when they are pregnant. What was she thinking.

Anyway, hi! Just discovered your blog and I love it! Gonna link you on my blog if you don't mind. : )

Kristen said...

I know, I can't believe those people that get BIG when they are pregnant. What was she thinking.

Anyway, hi! Just discovered your blog and I love it! Gonna link you on my blog if you don't mind. : )

Catherine said...

Uh TAMN share the wealth. Let's hear that recipe. I know a good one it's at

http://prudencepennywise.blogspot.com/2008/07/creamy-tomatillo-cilantro-dressing.html

It's really good. Bet your hot preggo bum will love it!

rachael said...

I don't know if you know, but this post is a killer. How do you stay so consistently awesome?? LURVE YOU!

Jenny Erazo said...

FUNNY! Just found the blog and LOVE IT!

Bags said...

Sometimes I really don't like you... now is one of those times.

Amanda said...

Wait, I am confused . . . I am a poor gentile and I thought Mormons were always super nice! Are they allowed to be mean to each other but not to outsiders?

The Dobrons said...

Youch.

-KJ said...

Just so your totally in the clear next time, just say "Bless your heart..." first. Then you know who's head the sin lays on (like we don't already know) if you know what I'm sayin'.

Hey you could always send her a pair of support hose just to show her how concerned you are for her. I mean, you don't want her to get tons of spidy veins to go with her stretch marks! A girl can only handle so much.

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LindsSawyer said...

Insecure girls are SOOO exhausting to deal with...you are being such a good example by dealing with such ridiculous behavior.

Kari said...

I am pregnant and due in 3 weeks and I am HUGE!! I can totally see where both of you are coming from. I would probably cry too (I am definitely not myself), but I would wait until I at least got to the car! I would also think, "I AM HUGE" she is right. I guess the truth hurts sometimes. :)

Your blog is awesome and I am so glad my friend suggested it to me!

Kari said...

Not to be rude or anything, but taking offense is a CHOICE. So bAsIcAlLy...that was HER choice to be such a downer. That fattymcfatfat BETTER not be at your todally perfect slash cute slash skinny prego BABY SHOWER.

Oh, and if Ruth or Yvette are there I will THROW UP. Seriously Tamn, ug chicks= ughhhh chicks.

J.Frey etc. said...

I don't see what the problem is. It's not rude if it is true, it's just informational. She didn't have any reason to start cying if you ask me. It was probably just her hormones...you know how pregnant girls can get.

Token Asian Friend said...

"You shouldn't eat sushi"? What is she going to tell you next, not to drink caffeine? You shouldn't go hot-tubbin'? No more fad diets? No horseback riding? No wave-running? No rollercoasters or trampolines? No piggy back rides? She's lame!

Matchbox Mom said...

Isn't sushi against the word of wisdom??

Tam

Kami said...

So TAMN...not to be rude...but your blog posts just changed in my feed reader and I can't see all of your posts any more and your blog is a bit distracting with the music (which BTW I do love) and the Ads popping all over the place. I will still pop over, I just want to read it all over there with less distractions.

ps. hope your not buggin', love ya girl!

Kerry said...

love your blog, TAMN! Those tunes are a killer. What do you at diner parties, exactly? Dress up like diner waitresses?

Kerry said...

love your blog, TAMN! Those tunes are a killer. What do you at diner parties, exactly? Dress up like diner waitresses?

Barton Family said...

Ewwww, she is so laim. I mean, I am chubbs and when people tell me I just agree with them...the truth is the truth. And I too think sushi is against the WOW!!!

pocketposies said...

I wouldn't worry about it too much. It was TOTALLY the Cafe Rio Pork talkin'. Hormones shmormones. We all know what happens to a girl when she eats that slow-cooked, dripping in enchilada sauce and smothered in brown sugar, melt in your mouth pork topped with beans lightly simmered in cilantro, lime juice, and fresh tomato sauce then covered in perfectly steamed rice mixed with more cilantro and lime juice and then slathered with buttermilk dressing infused with tomatillos and more delicious fresh cilantro....
it's practically orgasmic. Who can think straight in that state of mind!?

;)

Lindy said...

Tamn Tamn Tamners my bee eff eff. Are you sure that she was even prego?? I mean for reals, you're double her cuteness aka thinness hotness so I wouldn't doubt it. Thats way good of you to assume she is pregs tho! You're such a good example to me and all my bee hives. maybe one day I'll get to miamaid advisor tamn status, just maybe. Oh and You should warn her about all the nummy desserts on your blog so that she don't eat n e more of them sweets thinking they're healthy or something.. ugh poor girl.

Anne Osman said...

I know I don't know you personally, but from what I have read you sound like you think way to much about looks and materialistic things. What you said to your friend about being so big was not nice at all, even if it was true. She was just telling you something that doctors advice pregnant women not to eat and you responded with an insult. We are counseled to be humble and be Christlike. Also, about texting in church, none of the speakers said it was OK to text during church. The one General Authority who spoke about texting said IT IS NOT APPROPRIATE TO TEXT IN CHURCH. You should verify information before you print it as fact.

Rachel said...

HAHAHAHA!
Oh man.
Your blog is my favorite thing ever. It cracks me up SO much :P

Wendyburd1 said...

Double her cuteness...are you SURE you said the comment nice?LOL!

Lisa and Brian said...

TAMN, I myself gottalittle FRUMPY while preggo. I personally was glad to have hot gals like you remind me of my TUBBALARD-ness. It encouraged me to get stroller walkin' and to chew Orbitz instead of stuffing my face. SOOOO GREATFUL for your example!!

Lisa and Brian said...

ANNE OSMAN, you're not gettin' it, girl! This blog is a parody. Even some people who think they GET it, just don't get it. Yeah, the author knows texting in church is inappropriate and she knows that TAMN is obnoxious. That's the joke. We have all had a TAMN says these sorts of things to us or our BFF's at one time or another. That's what makes TAMN so hilarious. Seriously, how could anyone read her blog and NOT get it? Sheesh!

KT said...

I was huge when I was preggers, and totally gave up showering, too.

1216614478s21580 said...

Jane was right. That was FUNNY. But I rilly don't think you're using the word "like" enough.

Annie Valentine said...

TAMN, you had better be tellin' me if I hit hippo status with my next one! Break it to me over pedi's and I'll make it up to you with sushi!

Amber said...

Sweetie!!!! You're so misunderstood!

MOFia said...

Not funny. Just obnoxious. I'm glad I don't know you.

rachael said...

Ruuuude! Her, not you, def not you.