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Is it true that the second time you get preggy, noone throws you showers??
November 6, 2009
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This could change everything.
Is it true that the second time you get preggy, noone throws you showers??
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ssssoooo NOT true!!! I had such great friends, they threw baby showers for my first THREE preggers! (and my first two were BOTH girls)! Hope your friends are as great! {frownsmile}
The only way your going to get a second shower is if you rilly do teach second grade. Then all the little girls in your class will want to have a shower for you, with gifts they made theirselves.
Don't worry TAMN, you can still throw yourself as many showers as you want!
hahaha! I love that "it could change everything" meaning perhaps you won't keep trying to have another baby right now, because after all, if there aren't parties, what's the point?
I'm pretty sure you get showers for each one of them- even if you're having the same gender in the same season. It's great. At least that's what I though- otherwise I wouldn't be having my second.
Well, technically, no, they don't. But since you had twins first, and the next babies won't be the same, OF COURSE you need all new things!! Otherwise the new babies won't be on trend, and that would really stifle their eternal (fashion) progression!!
No, so toadily not true because the first time you all had darling boy stuff and the second time its a girl so you need new things...oh wait. The only way I know of to score a second-time around shower is to claim you gave everything away because you thought you'd never be able to have more kids but now that you have a miracle baby on the way you'll need all new stuff. If you should find yourself blessed with such a miracle child I suggest you get up in Relief Society and bear your testimony and suttley tell this story as part of some faith-promoting metaphor about how it is a miracle you got pregnant after literally weeks of infertility and hopefully someone will pick up the hint.
Maybe you could just say that the stuff you already have is way to outdated so everyone needs to throw you a nother shower. Seriously bc who wants to use used stuff? GROSS.
The only time I have ever heard for someone getting a shower for the second baby is if it is a different gender, and then I have only heard of two.
I dont think its fair. But then I dont have any kids, and I think I should get a shower for me anyway.
Only if they don't love you that much.
Yes, no one will throw you a shower. But since when has that stopped you?
But if you MUST have a shower THROWN for you, there is always the Donald Trump card of service.
Make sure you raise your hand EVERY week in RS and tell how much you and angel bunz are struggling. Talk endlessly about how hard it is to try and live on the money that your parents give you and how WICK doesn't cover crystal light. End by saying that you know God will provide and by "God" you mean "them."
What are they going to do without being seen as the prideful Nephites who got destroyed? That seems to work every time in our ward. It turned out so well last year that a sister got enough Carter clothes to sell on ebay and then buy Hannah Anderson. (Because she's struggling, but she wouldn't put her baby in target clothes.) See, her prayers were answered!
It would be different for you. Everyone would line up to host a party for you and your fetus. It's the perfect opportunity to show everyone else how in we are... in fact, can I throw the first one? It will be perfectly themed and color coordinated at the coolest house and with awesome party favors!
you can throw yourself one again, no biggie! :)
Of course its not true! You have more showers than the first time, since you know more people, of course. And everyone gets you DOUBLES of EVERYTHING in case you have another little Alivyiah AND Tridger.
whatevs. i'm throwing a shower for my friend who's having #2. buuut, her first baby was a GIRL and this one is a BOY so that makes sense. you've already had one of each, so you prolly won't get any pressies.
loser.
i don't see any reason why YOUR second pregancy shouldn't be the one to shatter that stupid no-shower tradition!
Nah, you just need a good excuse to get more stuff. Tell people you that when you thought you were infertile, you gave away all of A&T's baby stuff to the less fortunate so you could be charitable and avoid the reminders of newborns. That way people will both admire you and throw you new showers.
Only if your baby is the same gender as your first ... OH WAIT.
You're right! This could TOTALLY change EVERYTHING!!
Umm.. like, really? Only frumps wouldn't have another shower for the next babies, it's not like you would want your kids in hand-me-downs. Ew. Totally Gross.
Yeppers. Especially since you already had 1 boy and 1 girl. There's not even an excuse to have to give you stuff for the opposite gender.
Only if you have more babies than you did on the first time around. Go for it, Decamom!
If your friends suck, that's true.
Well, all *MY* besties threw my TWICE as many showers the second time I got preggers. But *ahem* you know, no big deal if no one does that for you, you can just say that you are above that or something.... *frownsmile*
That rule exists to spare people having to go to extra trouble for unpopular moms-to-be of 2nd babies. If your friends and/or acquaintances love you enough (and they do!) then they won't let a stupid tradition stand in the way of a celebration!
If you have lame friends, which I'm sure you don't, than you won't get another shower.
My ward does a shower for every. baby. Including the seventh baby.
It is most obnoxious.
Of course we'll throw you a shower! We're your EBFFs! And your real-life besties will throw you another one. And Glemma and Queenie will throw one separately.
that's right.
Your fabulous blog friends would definitely throw you a blog shower! You should get a shower for every baby had AND every five, make that 2.5 years married. Just my opinion.
Frau, you are funny. That is all.
You HAVE to have a baby shower for each baby. Clothing styles change way too fast! Hand-me-downs are so pioneer!
EWWWW! Second showers are sooooooooo tacky. This is gross
Adopt. You are entitled to a whole new slew of showers when you adopt. Adopting a baby from another country is worth an additional shower and an ethnic baby is worth two more. Plus when you cart around a brand new baby and are wearing skinny jeans everyone really hates you (in an admiring way)
As long as the babies are at least a year apart, you totally get another shower. Don't people know that clothes go out of style?!
So definitely not true. If your friends really love you as much as they say they will definitely throw you showers for each time you get preggers. I mean and now that you have the twinsies in tonz of play groups you should get showers from each of the play groups I would think? I mean it only makes sense.
my family tried to pull this crap with me. i was pregnant with my third child and so they figured i didn't need anything. finally a friend from church threw me one. so grateful for her. apparently i was supposed to save all the clothes and used pacifiers and bottles for years in case i had another child. yeah right!
Just make your own invites, but don't put who's throwing your shower, (because hello tacky for you to throw your own shower) and have it at a public location. But not in the cultral hall at the church, yuck now that is tacky!
How funny is this post? : )
Hilarious!
There's a new trend to throw "sprinkles" - mini showers for second/third babies. So the trend. And way to look conservative yet fashionable.
Just have a service shower-the kind were people think of things they can do to help you after the baby comes-they bring presents anyway.
Oh ya, this one needed to be blogged about. I HATE when people do second showers. So tacky. Who cares if it's a different sex. Stop begging people for new stuff. You have all your expensive things like swings, a crib, bouncers, etc. Go buy your own clothes people! I will never go to a second shower. And if someone tries to throw me one I'll puke.
AND your body gets fatter faster.
That's probably enough to change everything PERMANENTLY, huh.
It's true if you live in Utah ( aka the promised land) but if you live in the mish-in fild. Then you get showers until baby 4.
I heard that no one gets good gifts from showers in Utah- because everyone is a poor college student, has big families, yada, yada. I'd go to back to DC to get the good shower loot and not the Zion shower from those cheap Mormons. :)
you can throw yourself one
Just tell your biggest bff's to just have a "girls lunch" and make sure you tell them how to tell everybody you don't need presents, it's not really a baby shower, you just want everyone to celebrate with you anyway. Any one who is really your friend will bring you a present anyway, just because they love you that much. Plus they might bring more things just for the Mom, like spa certificates and stuff.
If you have a boy and the second is a girl, you are in luck or the other way around..
other wise, tough luck sister!
Unless, there happens to be some new mom that is having a baby around the same time as you, and you two become BFF's and then you insist on having a shower together.
it all depends on how REAL your friends are.
I'm just sayin'...
(isn't it great how you can say anything, even rude things, but if you add "I'm just saying", it's all okay. Kind of like how they add "bless your heart" in the south to make anything fly, like "You are looking a little chubby, bless your heart".)
I just have to say I love Mhana almost as much as this blog. Frau, you are hilarious as well.
Wow, I'd never heard of "Baby Sprinkles" before... but a quick google search showed me that apparently it's a HUGE trend. I don't know what more to say than, wow.
After reading all these comments I am realizing how lame my friends and family really are. I only got showers for my first and nothing after that. Thanks for helping me realize what a frumpy life I live.
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LOL, that's what I was told so I have only had one - I better not have been lied to!!!
See, if you didn't already have a boy and a girl then I'd say shower away.... but you don't want to look too selfish... so I totally say a service shower is the way to go, Emily is right, they bring gifts anyways!
Hellooooo - diaper showers! Doesn't sound glam but with all the $ others spend on you - you have plenty left to buy clothes that are actually worthy of the new lil one!
even if you don't get a shower you will get a push present. and the more kids you have the bigger the push present will be. i am for sure going to work my way up to a large blue box from tiffany's! and for the cute clothes for the kiddos (to keep them in style) that is what glamma is for.
If you're in a GOOD ward you get a shower every time. {frownsmile}
Hmm, you could tell everyone your house caught on fire and selectively burned only the old, outdated, tacky baby stuff that A and T don't need anymore, so you need a shower to replace it all.
Or just have lots of visitors the first few weeks after the baby is born. Everyone who comes to see a new baby has to bring something! I live in Zion and I've noticed this. It's like a baby shower that lasts all month!
Love it. Another dead-on post about Utah Mormon culture. How obnoxious is it when your sis-in-law whines her way into showers for all three of her pregnancies?
You could set a precedent, TAMN. Throw a bunch of showers for veteran moms in your ward, so they will owe you.
Just had my second baby 5 days ago. No one even mentioned a shower :(
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your GOOD friends do, the ones who always tell you how presh your twinsies look and how skinny you are and have you lost weight lately. They're always SUPER DUPER excited to hear your preggers, so I wouldn't worry a thing, because you can always jokingly/butseriously subtly threaten to not throw them showers or make them cute handmade cards with yor awesome scrapbooking skills ever again if they don't.
Oh, I don't know... a lady in our ward had her 4th baby and everyone threw her a shower... I think if you have REAL friends, they'll do it for ya!
It used to be like that, but nowadays you get a shower for everychild you have, as well as every marriage. People are more open-minded now than they were ten years ago.
a meet the baby is much more fashionable these days
I once mentioned that I was against showers for subsequent children on a certain popular scrapbooking message board and I got flamed by lots of perky little mommies who thought I must not believe each baby is a special, most precious gift to celebrate...
You should talk to them. I'll bet THEY'LL throw you a shower, Tamn.
Then again, I'm a mom of three boys who are all wearing hand-me-downs so what would I know? Gross, right? And SO tacky of me!
Totally untrue, you just have to move state each time.
Yep, depend's on the Ward. I'm with Rachel above--we must be in the same town--b/c every baby gets a shower here in NH, CT, every baby is loved equally, right!? Otherwise those poor 3rd or 4th babies feel so shafted!
the big gifts for weddings and 1st babies I get -- but on principle I def try to avoid the 2nds & 3rds showers -- although I'm in the small minority on this opinion, so I think you'll be fine down there in the Land of Materialism (utah).
It is so totally fine to throw your own after the first pregnancy.
Plus it's better that way, you can make it like you really want it, and you don't have to pretend you are having fun sniffing candy bars in diapars. Open house...gift opening...all day.
That's what I've heard...
Have JJWT throw a coed for you (his name as 'host' on the invite) but then you get to secretly be in charge of all the details. That's the only way it will end up perfect anyway. Then you can blog about how AMAZING your hubby is and everything.
I got showers for my first three, then I moved here and had two more...no showers for either of them...*sigh* so sad! Guess I just wasn't righteous enough....
oooh...Erin is a genius
TAMNER wow, let me just say, I luv luv LUV your blog! You made me want to start my own... I hope I can be JUST like you one day! Oh, and baby showers, my HOME ward throws a shower for EVERY baby that comes along. It's a ward shower, but that's better than nothing I guess...
not usually but...... move to a different ward so that they think your twinsies are adopted (so righteous and fullo service)and that this baby is your first. then you'll get a shower
Oh TAMN, you just have to move to Cali! Here not only do we give showers for EVERY baby (no joke, even someone having their FIFTH girl), we throw friend showers AND ward showers. That way everyone who isn't really your friend but occasionally sees you in RS still has to buy you a gift every 1.5 years (because the righteous have all their babies 1.5 years apart, right?)
So, seriously, move to the OC.
One of the drawbacks of living in Zion I guess. I'm way more righteous and stronger, so we live out of state, where we can do more good. Both in Cali and Washington(yes, Edward territory!) gals are thrown a shower almost every time!
I have learned so much from these comments.
By the way, your dancing turkey in the nest is incredibly creepy.
Why don't you set up a PO Box and have everyone mail you prezints?
Why don't you set up a PO Box and have everyone mail you prezints?
i only had one, even though i have three bambinos :)
Probably depends on how much money people in your ward make.
That would suck to be true...for me...NO WAY!! We do a "girls night/baby shower" for anyone who is having a baby in our ward!! I just did one for a girl who was on #6...!! I am so gettin one for this one #5 too..!!! We don't ever tell anyone to bring gifts...but it always happens...!! You are havin a baby...I don't care what number it is...CELEBRATE IT!!
That's correct, TAMN. No one will through you a shower for your second up too your tenth child. However, for the 11th child, the RS will take pithy on you and by you a gift card for WalMart. XOXO .
BULL! I had a shower for my twins and they were #3&4. What you need to do is have an insane spirichul experience and mirikle babies like me. :)
Just ask your Rs presidency to throw you one if no one volunteers. Be sure to give them a list of what you need and don't need.
You are in the wrong WARD we here in cali throw them even for the 4th. If you have the 5th you are an over achiever you are on you OWN!!!!!
I wouldn't know, and probably never will. I'm going to cry now.
I know many, many women who have ignored the one shower rule. Don't let it stop you.
Push present? Puh-lease!
If you move away from Zion you get a shower for each baby.
"We'll take good care of y'all here!" That's what the good sisters of my Southern ward told me here.
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