December 4, 2009

SiNgLe mOm!!!

~~fiNaLs tImE '09~~

School is sooo hard!! We are in the throws of studying for law/biz/med/dental school finals, he is such a studying champ, seriously, I could never learn all that stuff and if I tried to my brian would honestly burst. Soooo greatful I'm not a boy!


Anyways, bc SweetieNugget is so busy w/ finals I am such a single mom right now! :( Can you even imagine?? Except that I have a spousie to give me emotional, financial, and moral support and I don't work or have to arrange slash juggle slash pay for child care or worry about the future, ever. But other than that, sometimes he's gone ALL DAY so I am a TOTAL SINGLE PARENT since I have to drive myself places. You guys, yesterday when Glamma watched the twins, after All My Children and thrifting I even had to buy my own cupcake and had no one to take a polaroid of me pointing at it. Sad!


So all single mom's out there, I totally get you for the next week or so. Us wives club gals are totally getting pedis when finals are over bc not getting attention when other people are working hard is seriously exhausting and we deserve it.

77 comments:

debbie said...

I fill the same way!!! Once, I totally had to put the gas in my car BY MYSELF. Seriously a hard life that day.Keep your eye on the final reward (pedis) and youll be able to make it through, I Promise.

Jennie said...

"Soooooo greatful I'm not a boy!" I laughed OUT LOUD at that. Way to feed the girls r dumb stereotype.

I'm with others... I wanna hear about your Christmas decorations. I don't live in Utah and I would love to hear about all the latest fads that won't make it to Arizona until next season.

♥tori. said...

You totally shouldve put the cup cake by your tilted inward feet and snapped a Polaroid at it yourself...duh! So urban.

Carrie said...

You are so amazing and, as usual, right on the mark.

I literally worship the ground your dainty, perfectly pedicured toes walk on.

Literally.

Reynolds Family said...

Wow. You are so strong.

Frau said...

You poor thing. (((Hugs))) (While smiling because my lover bunz is done with law/med/biz school and I'm doing a totally rightous favor by helping you through this.)

When it's all over, you should have a spa day, not just a pedi. JJWT needs to totally step up to the plate, take some of the burden so you can get your relaxing in.

If he complains or tries to take relaxing time for himself, you need to stamp your teensy weensy feet and tell him that he doesn't know how hard you've had it.

If it gets ugly, go ahead and blog the details. We all want to know that much about your personal life.

Mhana said...

OMG I seriously know what you mean, cept I don't have any children and I'm the one dealing with grad school. But my hubby (poor deer) has had to spend a lot of the time we usually spend on US just playing computer games or watching football or going to the gym and I can tell it has rilly taken its toll. I feel seriously, so bad for writing all my papers and doing my grading and earning the money I receive monthly I practically want to QUIT so I can really focus on us as a couple. Its too bad they don't have husband clubs with crafts and meetings and drama to keep those menfolk busy and happy.

Lechelle said...

I love you TAMN. I hear this so often from dental/med/pharmacy wives that I physically restrain myself from rolling my eyes and calling them idiots.

This is my fav post. It's so real it's scary.

b. said...

This....is PRICELESS!

Emily said...

Spot on-wow

Alanna said...

Poor TAMN. You should probably just go stay with your mom (Queenie, right?) so you won't even be a burden on hard-working JJWT. Plus then your Mom can do all the work but you can still pout about how hard finalz week is for you.

Count me in for the pedis!!!

Tricia said...

my brian would honestly burst???? lolololol......you just made my day. and "polaroid of me pointing at it".....absolutely perfect.....just perfect.

you are a genius and that makes me want to kiss you on the lips! but not rilly because that would be so un richus, and so totes against prop 8.

I'm A. said...

No. Cupcake. Polaroid. ?! OMG.

Motion DeSmiths said...

R you rilly complaining when he works totally so hard for you? Why don't you focus more on making him lunches and making his home a heaven?

When I see guys at law/biz/med/dental school I can totally tell the ones whose wives love them because they are so well rested and have nothing else to do but study study study and occasionally watch youtube with their guy friends and maybe play put-put golf in the study rooms.

You can't have JJWT looking hagrid and stressed. Or girls like me will TOTALLY know. *frownsmile*

The love doctor said...

Flippin' Hysterical! You epitomized the objectification of men so well when people make such statements as you wrote. Thank you for speaking up! Holla!

Rebekah V. said...

I feel like we are back in grad school jist reading your post. but I really started understanding what it was like to be a single mom too and that was a total blessing. You will be stronger, I promise.

Courtney Price said...

Thanks for letting us listen to that especially rockin' version of breath of heaven. That makes me want to turn sacrament meeting into American Idol next week. Thanks for the inspiration!

Jenni said...

Throws. I love you.

Katey said...

Love the new banner. Super cute and sparkly!

Carolyn said...

So glad I took a break from the throws of studying for my law/biz/med/dental school finals to read this in-lite-ned entry, TAMN! Thanks for reminding me that I'm just a GIRL, and shouldn't even be AT school-- I think I'll go buy a cupcake instead! (But an all-organic one; I don't want to be a frump like yawn-ette!)

6p00e553c984b68834 said...

Holy carp. I actually know people who sound like this. Especially the first paragraph. It should be funny but somehow I feel sad....

AzĂșcar said...

Oh TAMN! Being a single mom overnight is the HARDEST THING EVER. I mean, WHAT IF AngelNuggetLoaf went out of town for a week on a business/Mexican fishing trip? I WOULD DIE WOULD YOU DIE?

Miss Hobbit said...

Oh TAMN...you *do* deserve a pedi! A whole week of not working, not arranging slash juggling slash paying for child care, and not worrying about the future takes such a toll. Not to mention what a trial it is to watch other people work hard and not take polaroids of you! How can you stand it? You're such a strong person, tho, I just know you'll make it thru finals week! Stay spritchal!

Sue said...

Awesome.

The Boob Nazi said...

You are so true to life.

GladysIcanbee said...

That explains why I didn't see you with the other law/biz/med/dental school wives decorating the UBERDARLING tree for Festival of Trees. and thank you for taking a moment to update us on your blessed life!

Porsche said...

brian for brain! LOL, TAMN, you crack me up!

Piper said...

What about those of us gals who are studying for finals? I mean, I don't want to steal your thunder, but don't forget us.

Sarah said...

I love how you totally get most people trails - infertility, single momhood, the horrors of being frumpy. Have you ever thought about being a motivational speaker?

Amy said...

Best post maybe ever! When my hubs was in Afghanistan I decided that a parade should be held in the center of town everyday just to honor single moms. (real ones though not us). Go single parents! I think they have the hardest job on the planet earth.

Thx TAMN, as usual, I could see a specific person I know in your post. You capture stuff that is sad but true in a way that cracks me up!

Myndie said...

sadness. you totally deserve it.

Bethany said...

Don't ever birst your brian. Ever!

Brittany Ann said...

Oh man, look at that, you hit single parenting right on the head, you totally get it. It's good ur soooo impathetyc.

Brooke said...

The fact I read this waiting for my final law class before exams to start, which almost relocated because the wives club was doing a Christmas craft complete with glitter and Goldfish crackers in our room today, made this sooo much better.

Laraine Eddington said...

You put the "m" in empathy.

Shannon said...

It's great because you get the martyrdom of being a single mom without the humiliation of divorce. It's kind of like being Jesus without the whole cross thing.

daltongirl said...

I was a single mom for five years, and sometimes it really felt like people didn't understand. Even though it's been nine years since that difficult time, it is so super comforting to know that there are people like you, TAMN, who get it. Thanks so much for sharing your feelings! I feel like I've been healed all over again.

And I want you to know that because of my experience, I seriously feel for what you're going through right now. If I had your address, I'd bring you a complete Olive Garden dinner every night for the next week.

Sarah said...

Thanks for posting this.
I had someone say something like this to me recently, and I wanted to smack her. I actually grew up with a single mom who worked a full time job, ran a ranch, and raised three daughters.

CJ Sime said...

you nailed it. I love how the deeper underlying message told me to be grateful for what I have. Really. Seriously thanks for this post.

Rachelle said...

Wow, TAMN, this is the first time in my life I'm not jealous of you. But next week when you're getting your pedi's, I'm sure things will get back to normal.

keighty said...

This is so on, it hurts.

dharvey said...

TAMN, that's a hart-wrenching post. Since you don't have anyone to drive you places, you must be in the throws of a real depression. Bear up, my dear. This trail defiantly will not last. Love you, XOXO.

Jensen said...

Totally know what you mean, Tamn. I totally went over to my gf's house the other evening when my honey-lover was staying late after work to do his class online. It was too lonely with just me and the kiddies. But hey, when life hands you raw ground meat, make tacos! Total yucks can turn into total FIESTA!

Matt and Jennae Porter said...

Ha ha ha ha ha!!! LOVE IT!

Sarah said...

hang in there TAMN!

evitafjord said...

So sad.

Hey, could you rearrange your music so that Jessica Simpson killing that beautiful song doesn't come up first? It makes me gag and not in a good way.

Tiffany UnTwisted said...

I laughed so incredibly hard at this that I think I cried real tears out of my ducts for once.

My favorite version of this conversation usually goes like this~

SSB: you're a single mom? oh, i have so been there. my husband went out of town on this trip and when he got back, he had so many things to catch up on for his callings that i didn't see him for like a week. i was stuck at the house the whole time because i just couldn't bear bringing all the kids to the grocery store at once.

Me: yeah, it's kind of ...

SSB: I mean, seriously, i had to do it ALL - even taking the trash out, and i didn't even know what day the trash man came!

Me (beaming my most charming smile): Sweet. Glad you have help again.

Breanne said...

Hardship! But at least you can totally identify with all those other single moms out there.

B and K said...

Yep- I LOVE how wives/moms in Zion refer to themselves as 'single moms' because their husbands are in grad school/ work full time. Because, really - its not insensitive at all of them to think of it (and actually complain about it!) that way. Bless their hearts.

Rock on TAMN.

Krista said...

OMG. You've been taking polaroids of yourself pointing to random items and haven't posted them yet?!?! Next time you have a random picture of any banal item of your life (you know, like that desk drawer you just cleaned out), please share, because you know that everyone cares SO MUCH about your life.

renae said...

i must stop reading this blog. i'm starting to not catch all the cutsey/idiotic misspellings. that means i'm so used to them that i think they're NORMAL. that's not ok! i need an intervention and perhaps rehab. maybe no more internets and speshul spellings are in my forseeuble futchur.

Brynn said...

Being completely serious for a moment you hit on one of my biggest pet peeve. My husband is a resident and I hear that all the time from other wives. If it annoys me I wonder how true single moms must feel. It adds to the ick factor when they say they are medical wife widows, ugh.

Staci said...

this has to be the stupidest post yes. thank you for making me embarassed to have you linked on my blog, since I have several single mom friends who might have clicked on this and wondered if I've lost my mind. i love reading your blog, TAMN, but geez.

Michelle said...

This is so great. Ooops, I meant grate.

Annie said...

Sorry to say it only gets worse AFTER he graduates. I met & married my Handsome Man when he was getting his Masters in the Tax program at BYU. Now every Jan thru April and half the other months he has "deadlines" and as a partner of the firm he has to work all sorts of long hours! Being a single parent to my darling little girls, who go to school all day, is SO hard I definitely get a girl's weekend away every April!

Als The Pals said...

Oh, you are SO dead on TAMN! I hear this from my friends ALL the time (as their housekeepers are cleaning their house, their gardeners are taking care of their yards, and they spending the money their husbands bring home).

Jean said...

HAHAHAHAHAHA...... thanks for that one. :-)

Molly in the Jello Belt said...

You want a polaroid of your cupcake? Helloooooo! You need a digital photo if you're going to blog it! My DH is the techie in our family, but I know that much at least!

(Is that why you never blog photos? They're all polaroids and you can't figure out how to get them onto the computer screen?)

Wendy said...

Brian. Boys. Classic.

You rocketh.

Laura said...

Wow. May be my favorite post ever.
Makes your brian hurt? Oh and the single mom thing - seriously I think I've seen this somewhere before ;)
Love ya TAMN. Thanx for keepin' it real!

jdb in AZ said...

Can you even buy Polaroid film these daze? That's SO 20th century. You must have had quite the stash of it in your righteous food storage.

After your get your pedi you should take a holly day cruise, cuz there's no where in northern Utard to show off pretty toenails this time of year.

Tarnation said...

I totally know what you mean. Once when we were in biz school I was expecting my third during finals week!!!! Luckily the baby waited until the day after finals. Phew that was close.

Cortney said...

This is so good! And so true. And to Staci, above, I can't tell if you're joking or not but I'm sure your single friends would have actually *loved* reading this post because I have heard more than one SAHM in the LDS Church actually try and compare themselves to single moms because their husband worked long hours. Your single friends have probably heard that tripe too, and had to bite their tongues in the interest of "sisterly harmony" at Church. This satirical dig in the ribs at those martyr women who know NOTHING about being a single mom would probably give them a good laugh!

Token Asian Friend said...

Staci,

Perhaps the author put the satirical mote in the TAMN's lash-extension framed eye to help us see the beam in our own.

Cortney said...

WAIT JUST A MINUTE. I just noticed... there was no one... to take.. a polaroid of you?! How will everyone know what an awesome marriage you have if you don't post polaroids of being in love and eating cupcakes and wearing vintage clothes?! You have to pull through TAMN. I know it's hard not having your marriage validated through polaroids of cupcake eating, but I'll be praying for you.

DIY REDS! said...

I am a little concerned about some of your readers. They keep using the ugly ( ) instead of the cute ones { }. I mean really?! Haven't they learned anything from your example?! Maybe you can't get through to everyone.

Jenny said...

I know. I feel so bad for you. To think that you might have to worry about anything financial, work hard, think, or give a crap about real life. This too shall pass.

clan of the cave hair said...

LOL, once upon a time I actually WAS a single mom (for like 7 years) and then I waved goodbye and sent my brand new husband to Iraq for months on end, and I still catch myself thinking "gosh, I feel like a single mother!" whenever my husband is gone too long. (and then I have to remind myself that him bringing home the bacon while I scrub the toilets is no where near as hard as it was when I had to bring home the bacon and the toilets didn't get scrubbed.) And just to avoid any e-mails 'splainin' to me how this is satire and all, yes, I know, but I can still submit a comment on the topic without having to make a joke, right?

Melissa Durtschi said...

OMG TAMN...I'm so glad you didn't have more kids, have special needs kids, have to work full time, while you go to school full time and its grate that glamma is there help....WOUCH!!!!! That would be hard!!!

Brian and chelsea said...

I confess - I've been a little guilty of this. My husband works 12 hrs/day and I have one entire child to take of all by myself. I've whined.

My two single-mom sisters have explained to me what it's REALLY like to be a single mom... all the drama of the in-and-out dad, the worries of the future... Yeah, I have nothingnothingnothing to complain about.

Kylie said...

Line upon line, TAMN. This season is preparing you for the even tougher {ugh!} time down the road when SnuggleNugget is working a rell job at the family business {you know, the one that is a cover-up for there uber-successful for you, sucks for everyone after you pyramid scheme} and is gone litterally all day. Do you know how much time that you wil be alone with those preshious babes? Like a lot. Do the math. Good thing he will be working super super hard so that you can still have girls lunches at least 4 times a week {thanx Glamma!}, and be able to put the twinsies in lots of totally educational/social classes {so you can "run errands" alone at Nordys}, and have "me time" while the twinners are at the sitters {your cutest MiaMaid}.

Count yer blessings, TAMN. You have everything a girl could ask for in a marriage: A hubby that supports you super-good financially and looks awesome. {Every other need can be satisfied by blogging about ultra-personal things, and reading your besties comments} Yay for hubbies!

Shop Girl* said...

*sigh*

I can't decide what I love more--this post, or the comments on it.

TAMN, you complete me.

Steph said...

Buying a cupcake alone? [frownsmile] TAMN, maybe you better spend your extra time on a FITNESS blog, I have seen a few of those lately and I think you're's could be the best, along with your lifestyle blog, design blog, photography blog, recipe blog and don't forget the ever important food storage blog!

Stephanie said...

Hey, I am not even a mom, and I think I deserve a pedi. Life is stressful!
:)
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Camels East said...

Spot on, as usual.

TAMN, you need to bare your testimony about single-momminess in Church. So many of the other single moms out there would sooooooo apprecitate it.

Sooooo awesome, TAMN.

BTW.... Breath of Heaven? I just threw up a little in my mouth. Good for my diet, bad for my ears.

: ) Paula said...

True, dat, TAMNation. Almost as cringe-worthy as your fertility woes.

I sure hope I didn't use the phrase "like a single mom" this summer when my husband worked 4 months of 12-hour nights. I hate it when TAMNtastic blogs about something (like diet Coke sipping) that I'm seriously so guilty of. Hopefully it makes me think twice about being more sensitive in the future.

Woah.

TAMNittall is making me a better person? Who woulda thunkit?!?

Neil Hiatt said...

You're right, you do deserve a break.